OK ladies. I cannot stress this enough. Listen to your surgeons! Do not overdo it. Do not think that one day you’re all of a sudden stronger than you were the day before and you can start cooking and cleaning. Use this time as a mini vacation to yourself to have your family or spouse handle everything for you.
This was a very difficult process for me to except. I am not the kind of person who enjoys sitting around all day doing nothing. I’m constantly working on some thing, working on music, cooking, cleaning, taking care of my kids, managing doctors appointments etc. I do not do well on idle mode.
But allowing yourself the time to properly heal is vital to your recovery. Think of everything your body just went through. You deserve it a vacation on your sofa! Netflix and chill mode!
In order for me to not completely lose my mind during my recovery time I made sure to handle a few at home projects prior to my surgery. I deep cleaned the house the week of my surgery making sure that everything was clean and in its place. I made sure that all the bills were taken care of so I didn’t have to stress out or remember anything. I made sure that every piece of laundry was done and that my kids were both set up for school projects with all of the supplies that they need it ahead of time.
I also made a point to pre-cook a bunch of meals and freeze them. My husband works 10 hour days so I knew that he would not want to come home and start cooking for a family of four after a 10 hour shift. This made it extremely easy for him to go into the freezer and grab a pre-cooked meal and simply re-bake it and serve. I think I made about 10 one gallon Ziploc baggies of my grandfathers marinara sauce. This was a great addition to meatloaf, chicken and pasta dishes. For some reason during my healing process I was extremely hungry and just craved carbohydrates.
it was also a great idea to buy premade sandwiches for my husband‘s lunches for work. My kids wanted to help out with daddy‘s lunches also so they have a great handle on how to make an awesome lunch for an electrician!
I think my biggest problem during the healing process with my constant apologizing. I felt the need to always say I’m sorry whenever I asked for something given the fact I love to be very self-sufficient. Of course it is OK to ask for help but for some reason when you’re asking over and over and over again it does cause your brain to start thinking you are not capable. Of course we are not capable. we just had our chest cut open and our breasts removed. So don’t apologize for asking for a bottle of water or a bowl of ice cream.
If you are anything like me than you also don't like to slow down. I am always working on something so this was by far the hardest part of recovery for me.
Bathing was tricky. I used a bowl of hot water and soap with a handcloth. The tricky part was having my hair washed over a sink with a trash bag taped around my neck. Hey! I made it work!
There is so much stigma attached to what is acceptable for a woman. So long stigma! These are my new breasts and no they didn't come with nipples and I'M OBSESSED WITH THEM!